Your Life Your Legacy

What’s your 2013 contribution going to be?

We know our lives are interconnected and whether we consciously choose to, or not, we are leaving our legacy through all our actions and words.

When we enter into the New Year and we reassess and set new goals, most often these are with the intention of improving our lives. But how often do we set or include a goal for what we are going to give and contribute during the year to others and our world?

Maybe this is your contribution to your relationships with your close family – partner, parents, children, siblings, Or your friendships, Or your local community – neighbours, colleagues, team mates, Or the wider community – local or global.

As the beautiful Audrey Hepburn eloquently said “As you grow older you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others”.

This year as you set your goals remember that the hand of the giver is never empty because the rewards are returned multiplied. And set yourself a personal goal (and make a committment to yourself to fulfill it) and include a goal which will light up both your life and the life/lives of others.  

A couple questions to help you
1. What cause am I passionate about?
2. What skills or assets do I have that I could contribute?
3. What contribution do I want to make this year – financially or with my time – to charity or community?
4. What is the positive impact I want to make this year to the lives of others and the planet?

You are so powerful and magnificent. Have a fantastic 2013 and I look forward to hearing and seeing your contribution this year   :)

With love,
Dalice

p.s. I am now waking up smiling from the inside and already seeing results. For greater success and results watch this free webinar

Audrey Hepburn "As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others"

Audrey Hepburn “As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others”

Leadership pt 1

I am often asked about leadership, have been recognised in various ways for my leadership and have most recently been asked to present on leadership to a group of professionals.

After agreeing to speak about leadership I have been thinking about what I might talk about and ended up with questions. Seemingly simple questions which I wasn’t sure of the answer too…

What is leadership?
and
What does it mean to be a good leader?

In my preparation for this presentation I decided to do a little internet research which came back with some diagrams and different ideas of leadership characteristics. Mostly I was not inspired by any of it.

I wondered also if the word ‘leader’ is thrown around too much or if we don’t use it enough?

Sadly I realised that a lot of the time we seem to link ‘success’ with leadership. We celebrate leaders in different fields, people who are good at their job or their sport, people who start a successful business, actors, actresses etc etc.

But in doing that we are overlooking that:

Every person is a leader – YOU are a leader
Every person is powerful – YOU are powerful

Being a leader is about being YOU and you being a leader first and foremost in your own life. Making decisions and being happy in being true to you.

YOU have infinite potential and by being here on this earth you are a leader. You are choosing everyday how you want to spend your time, what attitude you take to life and what direction you want your life to take. That makes you a leader.

Before the next part in this series of blogs on leadership, grab a pen and paper and sit yourself away from everything and everyone for 15 minutes and think about these questions:

-          If I was in charge of my life and I had the power to create / bring in / achieve something significant to me in the next three months what would it be?
(this could be around money, relationships, career, study, health, happiness etc.)

-          What is the one thing I can do right now that will move this goal closer to me?

I am already excited about your answers and can’t wait to hear from you!

With love,
Dalice

p.s. I am going to leave you today with one of my favourite quotes  :)  

KONY 2012 – A conversation worth having

Since the KONY 2012 video was posted the on-line community has certainly gone into over-drive, and as always the critics are out. Overall I find backlash against these things interesting because it really comes down to whether you look at the positives or negatives of a situation. So often people want to pull people and/or groups down when they take action and work to make a difference.

Everyone has a different passion and action approach for making a difference in the world and that should be valued. Change happens when people take action. If this video gets people thinking and talking on all different levels then that is a positive. Surely it is better than another article on a celebrity who went out with a pimple and un-brushed hair!

What we can take from this video is we are powerful not powerless. So often people think they do not have a voice and/or cannot make a difference to their own life – let alone the lives of others.

People can make a difference if they know what the issues are or how they can help.

I agree that we do not yet have the solution or best answers to fight the cruelty, injustice and suffering we see in the world – whether that be in our own country or abroad – but when we use cruel words to shut down others we do not get closer to finding a positive solution. Change can happen when people know they can have a voice and have the power to be part of the change.

When the first computer was developed its capacity was laughable by today’s standards. But we had to start somewhere. You do not start with the Apple 4.0 – which will be obsolete in 5 years (if you’re lucky for it to last that long!) – we start at a point and we learn and we create something better, and that is HOPE.

If KONY 2012 provides a new kind of awareness of some of the issues we face globally we are moving forward as a race.

Absolutely the issues are complex. I know people who make their own lives complex a lot of the time! That doesn’t mean they should sit down and do nothing or over-compensate by trying to do everything. Doing not much for so long is no-doubt how it got to this stage in the first place.

Is knowledge power?     Knowledge is only power if the right action is taken to follow it up. Knowledge without action produces zero change. Using ‘knowledge’ to shut people down is not the use of power anyone needs.

I have seen some people take the position of what I call a ‘knowledge of information snob’. Some of the comments and blogs I have read have put people down for ‘not knowing’ the issues. This is quite sad. We are not born with all knowledge, nor will we ever know everything. Learning and development in all areas is a constant process for everyone. Let’s not get angry at people for ‘not knowing’ what ‘we know’. Without doubt they have something they could teach us. If we are going to create any change and raise awareness of the real issues it is a matter of teaching not belittling people for their level of awareness or understanding.

KONY 2012 is to be a part of something bigger and to have your voice heard. Margaret Mead said: “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

Unfortunately we can be quick to jump to the negative and to shut people down who are trying to make a difference.

YOU

The KONY kits (which I believe are now sold out) cost $30. However, before buying any more merchandise or sitting back because they have nothing else to purchase what I recommend is thinking about the cost of the kit and what you are/were willing to give to the Invisible Children and do a little homework.

There are many great non-profits and social businesses in Australia (or insert own country here) and overseas. Check a couple out and choose one to donate your $30 too. Pick the one which you most believe in and are passionate about (after your research this may be The Invisible Children). Don’t do something because others are and don’t do nothing because you are un-certain what to do. Find out for yourself. There are great websites now which help you to go through different charities if you find it too much – which is understandable as there are a lot of options out there.

For example, if depression or mental health issues have touched your life then maybe this is something you would be interested in helping people through. Maybe you like the idea of micro-finance and giving people a hand-up through business or maybe it is people with disabilities, the environment and tree planting, education or refugees. Make your dollars count. You are powerful and can make a difference through your donations whether it be $s or time.

Real difference and change happens through working with people. There is a place for charity in this world and there is a place for creating lasting change by working together as the global community that we are.

Whether you like the video and campaign or not KONY 2012 is finally starting a conversation that needs to happen. It is never too late to create change.

If you haven’t watched the 30 minute clip yet the link is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4MnpzG5Sqc
(as at writing this blog 57,733,541 had already watched it – impressive for just 5 days)

And finally: “Be the change you wish to see in the world” Ghandi

Peace,
Dalice

If you are looking for more reading I recommend

Books:

The Life you can save by Peter Singer

Half the Sky by Nicholas D Kristof & Sheryl Wudunn

A couple blogs commenting on KONY 2012

http://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2012/03/solving-war-crimes-with-wristbands-the-arrogance-of-kony-2012/254193/#.T1nxUNvo-qo.facebook

http://www.chantellebaxter.com/5-reasons-why-kony-2012-is-both-awesome-crap-opinion-of-a-non-profit-ceo